How To Control Your Jealousy

I have known some very jealous personalities in my life. To be perfectly honest, I can’t think of any one of them that ended up being truly happy or successful. Jealousy has a way of destroying everything in front of it without regards. I can freely admit that I am not a jealous person, and I feel that it has a lot to do with the fact that I concentrate more on what I do than what others do. I believe that I could be a jealous person if I wouldn’t have this control over myself. After all, I am a very competitive person that thrives on adversity. I would seem to be the perfect fit to have jealous tendencies, yet I do not. Here are some tips that I live by which I believe can make a significant difference in controlling your jealousy:

Focus on your qualitiesI spend more time thinking about what I do right than what I do wrong. We all have our faults, sure. But why should we be reminded of them constantly? I am a very positive person, I will look at the glass as half full. I do not see problems, I see opportunities. I feel that being positive and always looking at the silver lining helps tremendously in avoiding feelings of jealousy. Jealousy thrives on negative emotions, so take the negativity out of the equation and your jealousy can barely survive. You are the best positioned person to know what you are doing right. You are therefore the best person to remind yourself of all that is positive about you. Do not count on others to do that for you, because you cannot be guaranteed it will always be the case. If I do think of a fault of mine, I think of it in terms of what I can do to improve it. I never dwell on anything negative about me, I feel that is a big waste of time, and a trap to affect other emotions, such as jealousy in this case.

Do not compare yourself One of the main reasons why people feel jealousy, is that they compare themselves to other people and what they have. We are all completely unique individuals, and once you fully understand this concept, you will realize that comparison among each other is useless. We all have things that others don’t have and vice versa. The combination of what we have and what we do not have is unique. Now, you can aspire to have something or have a certain characteristic like someone else. That is usually a positive feeling, which triggers motion and improvement. Jealousy triggers paralysis, and that is the difference. You cannot be someone else, you are “you”, so focus on being the best “you” that you can possibly be!

Remind yourself of the consequencesWhat good has ever come out of being jealous? I can think of only one and I will discuss it in my last point. But usually, jealousy only leaves a trail of hurt and disappointment. Why allow yourself to feel this way if you know nothing good can come out of it? This is about being in control of your own mind. I know that jealousy is a hard emotion to control. This is why you need to remind yourself of all the potential bad things that can result from expressing this jealousy. You are not only bringing yourself down by being jealous, but chances are, you are affecting other people as well. Do you really want to be the root of such a negative experience to the people around you? Think about the consequences as soon as your jealousy grows so that you can more easily tame it.

Assess your lifestyleA friend of mine once told me that his jealous ways completely disappeared once he changed his eating habits into a healthier direction. I found this quite fascinating. Take a closer look at your way of life. Perhaps the source of your jealous ways lies in the fact that you do not have a proper diet, do not exercise enough, or do not have a constructive hobby. Lacking in these areas can have serious effects on your psyche. Doing activities that make you happy & feel good will only boost my first point about focusing on what’s good about you. If you are moping around your home, eating junk food, and feeling sorry about yourself, chances are your potential for being a jealous person will be much higher.

Channel your jealousy into motivationInstead of letting the jealousy eat you up, think about what you can do about it. Do not linger endlessly into the feelings of jealousy, it will drive you mad and irrational. Concentrate on a constructive way to direct the energy that you are expressing due to this jealous emotion into something that you can benefit from. Allow jealousy to motivate you into being an even better person than you are. Let it push you to improve yourself. Instead of letting jealousy destroy you, you turn it around and make it work for you. You will soon realize that jealousy will turn into aspirations, which can then be to your advantage. Channeling your jealousy into something that can motivate you to change, improve, or grow is a wonderful way to gain control over jealousy and make it work for you.

I have seen so many people lose so much because of letting their jealousy get out of control. I hope this article can help others in such a position to gain control back over this combustible emotion so that they do not suffer the same fate.

How do you usually cope with jealousy?

RE Nainggolan Ajak Mahasiswa Jadi Entrepreneur Sejati

MedanBisnis – Medan. Direktur Pusat Studi Ekonomi Rakyat (Puser), Dr RE Nainggolan MM mengajak mahasiswa menjadi seorang entrepreneur sejati yang tangguh. Sebab, sudah banyak pengusaha muda yang berhasil mengembangkan usahanya sejak masih duduk di bangku kuliah.

Ajakan itu disampaikan RE Nainggolan saat menyampaikan materi dalam seminar nasional yang digelar Fakultas Ekonomi Universitas Prima Indonesia (Unpri), Kamis (14/6), di Griya Dome. Sebagai pembicara pertama RE Nainggolan dipandu Yonge LV Sihombing MBA, dengan materi berjudul “Semangat Berwirausaha Intelektual Muda”.

RE Nainggolan Cagubsu dari Partai Damai Sejahtera (PDS) ini mengatakan melalui seminar tersebut perguruan tinggi diharapkan dapat menjadi perguruan tinggi yang dapat mencetak lulusan-lulusan yang siap bersaing di pasar global terutama di bidang kewirausahaan.

“Kalau mau menjadi entrepreneur, milikilah inovasi dan kreatifitas, kemudian bangun network atau jaringan. Perlu juga melakukan perencanaan yang matang, pengawasan yang ketat dan perhitungan yang tepat,” kata RE Nainggolan yang juga mantan Sekdapropsu ini.

Pemateri kedua, Cut Fitri Rostina dengan materi “Karakteristik Wirausaha” sekaligus dirangkai dengan pemberian piagam penghargaan kepada tiga orang mahasiswa (Aidal Safitra, Herman dan Charles) yang berpartisipasi dalam Program Pelatihan Pengembangan dan Penumbuhan Wirausaha Baru Industri Kecil Menengah di Sumut yang diselenggarakan Disperindagsu.

Pemateri III Boyke R Purnome membawakan materi tentang “Thinking Entrepreneurship: Opsi Baru menuju Kesuksesan Akademia”. Dalam paparannya, Boyke banyak memberikan tips-tips dalam memulai sebuah usaha serta kunci sukses mengembangkan usaha. Dalam sesi tanya jawab, mahasiswa terlihat sangat antusias mengajukan beberapa pertanyaan.

Wakil dari Disperindagsu Ir Hasnah Leli MM mengatakan bahwa Kementerian Perdagangan dan perindustrian beberapa waktu lalu telah melakukan perekrutan mahasiswa untuk mengikuti Program Pelatihan Pengembangan dan Penumbuhan Wirausaha Baru Industri Kecil Menengah.

Rektor Unpri, Prof Dr Djacobus Tarigan AAI DAAK dalam sambutannya mengingatkan agar mahasiswa yang memilih berwirausaha bukan karena tidak ada pilihan, tapi jadilah wirausahawan sejati. “Bidang kewirausahaan adalah salah satu pilihan karier yang jelas asal memiliki inovasi dan mau mengembangkan jejaring,” kata Djacobus yang sekaligus membuka seminar nasional.

Pembukaan seminar ditandai dengan pemberian cenderamata berupa ulos oleh Ketua Yayasan dr I Nyoman EL MKes, AIFM, Ketua Badan Pelaksana Harian Unpri Tommy Leonard SH MKn, Rektor Prof Djacobus Tarigan dan Wakil Rektor I Prof drg Monang Panjaitan kepada pembicara Dr RE Nainggolan MM, Boyke R Purnomo SE MM (Dosen FE UGM) dan Cut Fitri Rostina SE MM (Dekan FE Unpri).
Ketua Panitia Seminar Hendry SE menyampaikan tujuan diadakannya seminar antara lain untuk memotivasi mahasiswa dalam mengembangkan jiwa entrepreneurshipnya, memberikan tips-tips dalam berwirausaha kepada mahasiswa, memberikan pengetahuan yang mendalam tentang kewirausahaan. Seminar diikuti sekitar 500 mahasiswa fakultas ekonomi, siswa, guru dan dosen. (rel/mulyadi hutahaean)

These situations call for collaboration

Have you been on teams that engaged in true collaboration? What did it take to make it happen?

What’s interesting is that neither team consciously decided not to collaborate. Instead they did what came naturally, which is to work either completely or partially on their own. The reality is that true collaboration is difficult and time consuming

Like death and taxes, one of the inevitable realities of organizational life is the periodic “team challenge.” This is when a team is assigned to accomplish something beyond what they currently do or have done before. For a top management group, it might be the requirement to reduce overall expenses or headcount by 20%; for a sales or business development team, the goal might be to increase revenues by 10% in the next quarter; and for a product development team the focus could be on accelerating a market launch by two months. The varieties are endless, but the collective theme is that people working together — each with their own responsibilities — need to achieve a common result.

These situations call for collaboration — which should be the fastest and most effective way to get results. But surprisingly over the years I have seen teams respond to these kinds of challenges in three basic ways (only one of which is truly collaborative):

First is what I call compliance. This is when each team member independently responds to the challenge by taking action in her own area. In other words, everyone on the team complies with the need to do something, but avoids working together. For example, I once worked with a divisional leadership team that was required to reduce overall headcount by 10% to meet the corporation’s goals. With very little discussion, each person agreed to cut 10% of the people from their own function and report the numbers back to the divisional controller. While this “spread the pain evenly” approach indeed met the corporate requirement, there was probably a better way.

The second response is cooperation. Here again each person develops and implements his own plans, but in this case shares what he is doing with the group. While there is some amount of joint discussion, the focus is still on individual actions rather than a collective strategy. For example, when one technology company needed to increase its sales performance, the districts were all given significantly higher targets. The district managers then went about achieving these targets in different ways. Some increased individual sales quotas across the board; others reallocated resources to higher-potential customers; and still others focused on closing the gap with services contracts. The managers shared these approaches on their weekly calls, and gave each other feedback. But they never created a joint strategy to leverage their combined resources, ideas, and talents. In the end, while some districts hit their targets, the overall numbers were disappointing.

In both of the cases described here, true collaboration might have led to a more robust and effective outcome. In the sales example, the district managers might have reallocated resources across districts, created joint campaigns for particular products, or brainstormed many other ideas that could have been quickly tested and possibly scaled.

What’s interesting is that neither team consciously decided not to collaborate. Instead they did what came naturally, which is to work either completely or partially on their own. The reality is that true collaboration is difficult and time consuming. It requires subordinating individual goals to collective achievement; it means engaging in tough, emotional give-and-take discussions with colleagues about strategies and ideas; and it often leads to working in new ways that may not be comfortable or easy. So given these difficulties, most teams find it easier to talk about collaboration rather than do it.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Teams can address their challenges through true collaboration, and by doing so can achieve outstanding results. The starting point however is to make a conscious — and collective — decision to go beyond compliance and cooperation. WE CAN, DO IT N GOOD LUCK

Kaizen System

Cultivate a KAIZEN working climates and cultures in the organization.

Everybody deserves to and should be willing to improve himself/herself for the better continually. 

KAIZEN is adapted in organizations and management perspectives, however, it is easier to talk about it than to implement it. It is very natural that people will propose some kind of change in their own work place, when they become unsatisfied with their present conditions. Some of the improvements could be carried outright away. 

That's what people expect when they propose something. The positive response given by the boss will then develop trust with the subordinates and stimulate other improvements. Cumulatively, this will create momentum for continuing improvement.

Continuous improvement in personal life, home life, social life and working life. 

Good luck, Vini Vidi Vici [ Kaizen Division-ESA R & D-ESA Group]

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ESA Group Profile

Our vision is to foster entrepreneurial growth by helping people with entrepreneurial potential, like you, to realize their dreams. Our mission is to assist you in exploring opportunities, launching new ventures, or growing your existing business by providing productive business solutions and recommendations.

Every business has its unique needs. We work closely with you to customize our approach and method according to the character of your business and you, the owner. Every project, however, will have the following basic components. This 5-step process ensures quality services and business recommendations:

1. INITIAL CONTACT 

Through an initial phone conversation, we learn about your background, exchange information, and agree to a face-to-face meeting. We believe in the importance of relationship-building so much that we will not accept a project without first meeting the client. After the initial contact, preliminary research will be conducted and questions will be forwarded for business owners to consider before we meet.

2. MEETING & GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER 

During this meeting, we will establish the objectives of your project, how to measure its success, and its value to your company. A conceptual agreement between us will be established. More importantly, a trustworthy relationship will be fostered. We want to know you and your business!

3. PROJECT PROPOSAL 

A proposal entailing the methodologies for the project and the options available to you will be presented for consideration and acceptance. The timeline, terms, costs, and conditions of the project will also be discussed during this phase of the consulting process.

4. RESEARCH & ANALYSIS 

Once the proposal is accepted, we will start the research and analysis process, and produce a comprehensive report with our findings and recommendations. Our advice is only as good as the quality of your involvement. You will play an active role during this phase of the consultation process to receive the most benefit of our business knowledge and consulting advice.

5. PROJECT DELIVERY 

Presentation of results will be arranged either in person or through the method you choose to receive the final report. At this final stage, we conclude our work and evaluate the success of the project.

Why ESA Group

Size Doesn't Matter

Most consultancies focus their services on medium to large corporations. They have limited availability for small projects, and when they do, they are expensive. ESA Group  expertise is in helping small businesses. We value your business even if you are only just starting out. Our focus is on helping you achieve your dreams and goals, and our values and approach reflect that.

Relationship-Oriented - We're Your Business Friend 

We place ourselves in your shoes and think outside in. Our belief is that only when we have established a trust relationship with you, do we deserve the business you are entrusting us with. We believe in long-term relationships, and we will support your business vision even after the completion of your project.

We Understand You

As an entrepreneur herself, our principal consultant, Frank Be Ngl, understands small business operators’ needs and challenges intimately. Her personal experience in starting and operating small businesses sets her apart from corporate consultants who do not have experience with micro-scale businesses. We understand you.

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These 10 tips should help you focus on the areas of business offering the biggest gain :

No business is static ....... !!
Your business is on an upward track or on its way down. Making improvements to make your business better is a conscious choice. Not only must you balance your time but choose the right area of business that will make the biggest impact.

These 10 tips should help you focus on the areas of business offering the biggest gain :

1. Keep Score: It's amazing how few small businesses have any idea of the daily, weekly, and monthly numbers and financial trends in the organization. Spend the necessary time keeping current on cash flow and if you lack the financial skills then hire an accountant.
2. Set Goals: Like keeping score, setting goals and objectives is an essential part of business success.
3. Use High Impact Marketing: It's easy to waste money on ineffective marketing. Learn how to use low budget high impact marketing to improve your small business.
4. Master Business Presentations: A powerful business presentation can help improve your small business by leaps and bounds. Learning the essentials of a knockout business presentation can reap many rewards.
5. Monitor Trends: No business operates in a vacuum. The events and changes in the global landscape have an effect on your business. Stay current on trends and issues.
6. Sharpen Selling Skills: A high return area for business improvement is the sales function. Whether you're selling to big companies or managing a sales team, never forget to focus on sales improvement.
7. Find Best Practices: Every industry has its own best practices or ways of doing things that are tried and true. Avoid wasting money and time reinventing the industry is generally a good approach unless you're set on building the next Goggle.
8. Motivate Staff: Talented and motivated staff members can bring on big improvements in business. Learn what motivates your employees to higher levels of performance.
9. Know Your Limits: Every successful business owner, even Bill Gates, has a clear idea of their limitations. By knowing your entrepreneurial personality type ,you can manage your resources and find help in areas of weakness.
10. Take a Break: Running a small business is hard work. Sometimes the best way to improve your business and re-ignite your passion is to take a vacation.
    
    Do the best, Good luck ( Kaizen-ESA Group)
    
    

Study Tips and More for Success

The key to succeeding in study, is to determine your unique challenges and find specific solutions. The best way to figure out what works is to experiment.

Here’s a list of strategies to get you started 16 Methods :

01. Have a plan

02. Schedule everything

03. Create a contingency plan

04. Study in increments

05. Use whatever study tools work best.

06. Identify your best study environment

07. Consider your style when setting a schedule.

08 Take mini-breaks.

09. Exercise.

10. Improve a weak memory

11. Don’t ignore other symptoms.

12. Use timers and alarms.

13. Have a place for support activity

14. Don’t hesitate to ask for help.

15. Evaluated

16. Improved and Develop Method continues

Remember that the goal is to find tools and techniques that work best for you. Try these out, and stick with the most effective strategies.

Good Luck and Success
( ESA - Kaizen Side )